15 to 30: Babies
Goal: Become a Mom
When I turned 20 I assumed that within the next ten years I’d have at least one child. Well, I’ll be celebrating the big 3-0 in two short weeks, I can say with certainty that I will not be fulfilling my twenty-year-old self’s prophecy – not before I turn 30 and not in the next 9 months.
Still, I have babies on the brain. It seems that everyone I know is having a baby: high school classmates, friends from college, former roommates, Air Force wives, even bloggers I follow. I’m not gonna lie; it’s disappointing to me that I’m not where I thought I’d be at this point in my life, and I can’t help but feel a teensy bit jealous of my pregnant peers (but still very, very happy for them).
I have to accept that if it wasn’t meant to be in my twenties, it wasn’t meant to be. Despite the fact that everyone, including myself, seems to be obsessed with the idea of being a “young mom,” I have to remind myself that the right time to have a baby is when you are emotionally and financially ready, not just when you are a certain age (aka “under 30″).
But now my biological clock is starting to make some noise, and I can sense that my maternal and nesting instincts are warming up. I’m beginning to feel like I’m ready to enter the next phase in my life. So one of my goals for my 30s is to have a baby (and eventually one or two more).
Tick, tock…
(image by me of a friend’s baby, July 2009)
at least you’re married
You will know when you are ready and it will be amazing. that baby in the picture is amazing
Meeting Mr. Right happened when I least expected it. Hopefully the same isn’t true for baby!
Isn’t he adorable?? He’s gonna grow up to become a VERY handsome boy.
I too thought I would have children in my twenties and be a “young mom”. I’m 25 now and we are going to wait at least three years before trying. Partly to enjoy being married for a few years and partly because I want to get a few deployments out of the way before I do it with kids!
I turned 30 last October and have just started getting serious cravings for a baby. But we’re still not ready, financially or emotionally. I am considering starting to save monthly for what I think the newborn costs would be. To see what kind of strain it puts on our budget. I’m not one of those “let’s just jump and see how it goes” kind of women.
Not everyone is having them. I’m 33, married, no kids and don’t want them.
Now that I’m nearly 30, 28 seems young to me!
Apparently babies are quite costly, particularly daycare – or so I hear.